It was definitely a writer braver than me who used as his novel’s title, For Whom the Bell Tolls. This phrase, lifted from a poem by John Donne, can cause writers to break into a cold sweat, seeing the word ‘whom’ hovering menacingly in print. Likewise, there are a few other small and seemingly uncomplicated but irritating words that confront writers, editors and proofreaders – causing hours of delay as we consult the grammar guides, searching for aides-mémoire for the accurate use of these little bugbears. We’ll tackle who vs whom later – but the other annoying words that can cause confusion are ‘I’ and ‘me’, and ‘that’ and ‘which’.
Withnail and who?
Let’s start with ‘I’. One of the most famous ‘I’s of all time is a lead character in one of my favourite films – Withnail and I – the unnamed ‘I’ played by Paul McGann opposite Richard E Grant’s splendid Withnail. Now, who hasn’t seen that title and thought, shouldn’t it be Withnail and Me?
The title, as a film about something, could be Withnail and Me – like ‘Me and Bobby McGee’ – but, the truth is, it could be both, depending on the context of the sentence. In the case of Withnail and I, the slight whiff of word misuse perfectly suits the pomposity of the film’s eponymous heroes who go on holidays by mistake. Or, as lead actor, Richard E Grant describes so succinctly:
“A well-spoken foul-mouthed pair of struggling actors decide to take time out from their state of almost total squalor for a soul-revitalising jaunt to the Lake District.”
‘I’ and ‘me’ are both personal pronouns, but ‘I’ is a subject pronoun and ‘me’ is an object pronoun. So, use ‘I’ when the pronoun is the subject of a verb; and use ‘me’ when the pronoun is the object of the verb.
- The film tells the story of Withnail and me.
- The film exposes the great turn of events befalling Withnail and me.
- The poacher followed Withnail and me into the pub.
- Withnail and I ventured forth to Penrith and ordered the finest wines available to humanity.
- Once we managed to catch the chicken, Withnail and I shoved it into the AGA and cooked up a feast.
The best way to check if you’ve used the right personal pronoun is to remove the other person/pronoun and read the sentence out loud to see what happens:
- The poacher followed I into the pub – wrong
- Me ventured forth to Penrith… – wrong
One thing I’ve noticed recently is a trend to avoid the use of ‘that’ at all costs. I can almost hear the edicts from chief executives insisting on excising ‘that’ from their company’s lexicon. But sometimes this just creates confusion for readers – or at least causes them to re-read sentences to figure out what’s going on. People seem to prefer ‘which’ – maybe because it is less harsh-sounding – and seemingly not as overused.
If you are in a position of having to decide whether to use ‘that’ or ‘which’ there are some rules to help.
When to use ‘that’:
‘That’ usually introduces a restrictive clause – words that describe or contain essential information about the noun they introduce.
- The country cottage that the two Londoners shared for their ill-fated weekend, which was owned by Withnail’s Uncle Monty, was located in a remote part of Penrith.
When to use ‘which’:
‘Which’ is non-restrictive and contains non-essential or extra information about the noun – that’s why it is usually preceded by a comma, which makes the clause it introduces easy to sweep aside and ignore.
- The script that was given to actor Paul McGann in 1986, which his agent heard about in the summer of 1986, had been languishing at the bottom of a drawer for 16 years.
Having said that…
In UK English, sometimes ‘that’ and ‘which’ are interchangeable. And so, what I do is read the sentence out loud – if it sounds OK, I leave it as is and save the typesetter the unnecessary task of changing it.
- Director Bruce Robinson had an old Olivetti typewriter that/which he tried to write poetry on.
When it comes to ‘who’ or ‘whom’, I side with The Guardian Style Guide – because ‘whom’ is rarely used in spoken English, it is safer to use ‘who’ in print and avoid making an embarrassing mistake. But they do have a handy tip to making the right choice: ask yourself how the clause beginning who/whom would read as a sentence with ‘he’, ‘him’, ‘she’, ‘her’, ‘they’ or ‘them’ instead.
If the who/whom person turns into he/she/they, then who is right; if it becomes him/her/them, then it should be whom.
- The Director said: “The other main character was Uncle Monty, whom I specifically wanted to be played very, very straight.” (I wanted him to be played straight)
- The other character was Uncle Monty, who had a penchant for cabbages and carrots. (He had a penchant for cabbages and carrots)
The Oxford Dictionary reminds us of the ‘obligatory whom’ – essential when preceded by quantifiers – ‘all of’, ‘both of’, ‘few of’, ‘many of’, and so on…
- Bruce Robinson’s cult classic Withnail and I is brought to life by a memorable cast, all of whom have helped the film achieve longevity through their timeless performances.
‘Whom’ has become intimidating because it now sounds overly formal – and if you get it wrong, you end up sounding as pompous as an over-dramatic actor ordering fine wines in a tea room. Or perhaps it is because the most famous example – John Donne’s tolling bell – is often misinterpreted as singling out the poor, unfortunate reader as being on the receiving end of funeral bells? In fact, while Donne’s message was not overly cheery, it was saying that none of us are alone, and that we share the burden of humanity among all mankind:
“Therefore, send not to know for whom the bell tolls; It tolls for thee.”
Now, after contemplating that message, the task of choosing a few simple words doesn’t seem such a chore, does it?